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Please review some of the most common signs of distress.

Recognize

  • Signs of physical abuse
  • Signs of self-injury
  • Interpersonal violence
  • Unprovoked anger or hostility
  • Implying or making a direct threat to harm self or others
  • Stalking or harassing
  • Disclosure of thoughts of death or suicide
  • Verbal abuse (e.g., taunting, badgering, intimidating)
  • Unresponsive or altered level of consciousness

Academic

  • Repeated absences, missed meetings, and/or decline in quality of work or performance
  • Writings or creative work that include disturbing content and/or themes of despair, hopelessness, violence, death, or aggression
  • Disorganized performance and/or repeated requests for extensions
  • Conduct that interferes with classroom, group work, or activity engagement
  • Frequent use of faculty/staff office hours for personal support
  • Marked changes in appearance (poor hygiene, unusual clothing, bruises or scratches, etc.)
  • Excessive fatigue or listlessness
  • Sleep disturbance
  • Intoxication, hangover, smelling of alcohol, or evidence of drug abuse
  • Disoriented or “out of it,” out of touch with reality
  • Garbled, rambling, tangential, disconnected, or slurred speech
  • Behavior out of context or out of character for the individual
  • Self-disclosure of personal distress (family problems, financial issues, grief, shame)
  • Excessive tearfulness, panic reactions, irritability, or unusual apathy
  • Feeling hopeless or helpless
  • Expressions of concern about the student by peers
  • Concerning interpersonal communication styles (withdrawn, agitated, muttering under breath, slow response time)
  • Delusions or paranoia

Use these important tips to determine the most appropriate response for a distressed student.

Respond

  • Be direct
  • Stick to the facts
  • Don’t make assumptions
  • Describe the changes you’ve noticed
  • Ask if they are okay
  • Listen
  • Let them know you are there for them
  • Be patient and listen
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Offer help where you can
  • Ask what they need
  • Remove distractions
  • Summarize what they say
  • Follow up with them
  • Listen
  • Provide a space to be heard
  • Be curious; ask questions
  • Let them know they are not alone
  • Affirm their feelings
  • Determine the need and appropriate resources
  • Reaffirm your support and care
  • Connect them to resources
  • Walk them to resource offices when possible
  • Follow up